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kccc

Grammy, I will pull out my copy of the Four Agreements and look at it again. Love your story - it sounds SO like something I would do! Lunch yesterday ended up being tomato soup, ham and cheese sandwich, and dried mango. Dinner... well, it turned into a Friday Fail. Not terrible, but I recognize the...

kccc

There was a thread about Brad Pilon and Eat-Stop-Eat on here a while ago. I followed it with interest, before deciding that fasting was NOT for me. It just sounds like a binge-cycle to me. What I'm doing is working well, so no need to try out something that sounds as if it would hurt me more than it...

kccc

stubby1234 wrote: I'm gonna keep the pace I have and focus on habit!

You go!

kccc

Sounds about what my kid (age 10) is eating right now. When they're growing, they can put it away! I packed the following for him today. (Note: the day camp requests a lunch and two snacks. Sigh. I guess they have to fill the time. I packed this, and let him split it out as he liked.) Cup of tomato ...

kccc

KCCC .. the first time I read the "do you best..no less.. no more , I had to actually sit myself down. It was that powerful a message to me! It had never entered my mind that I had been trying to do "more than my best" in most areas of my life and I was paying the price. What an eye opener!! Thank ...

kccc

Feel better soon.

kccc

Who Me? wrote:It occurs to me that you could imagine the contents of the bowl, frozen solid, and upended on a plate...

That's a creative approach!

kccc

I'd call it a sweet, absolutely. I wouldn't consider having it on an N-day. But... I drink cafe au lait (CaL), which is coffee with hot milk and (for me) a teaspoon of sugar. Not all that different, really. What I do is apply "glass ceiling" rules to my CaL. Only two per day, with an optional 3rd IF...

kccc

You're in the "tough part"... when the novelty has worn off but habit isn't yet formed. You've passed the honeymoon period.

Stick with it. It gets easier.

I recommend the "Strictness" podcast for inspiration.

Best...

kccc

I always made my son sit at the table for food, which has kept him from the perma-snacking habit (and keeps me from finding food trash all over the house - grr!) I also use the "if you're not hungry for an apple, you're not hungry" approach, like Clarica. We generally distinguish sharply between "sn...

kccc

Glad we did the bbq chicken instead... had enough for a friend of my son's, so we could do an impromptu dinner invite. The little guy was SO pleased to have a friend over who could stay through dinner. :) Exercise - walking plus abs. We did pikes, which I love. Br - Greek yogurt, banana, 2 CaL L (pl...

kccc

Good to see you periodically - and glad to hear things are going well!

kccc

I'll also second KCCC's "Phases of NoS" thread (in the "sticky" section up top): one of the best sources of comfort and calm information for new and veteran NoSers alike (much like KCCC herself). Dave. what an incredible compliment. Thank you. ::blushing:: [Tangent: What does your string of letters...

kccc

Coming in late with good wishes for your mom, but will add mine to the pile. And do take care of yourself too. It's that oxygen-mask analogy... very true. (Grammy, I also like that line!! Trying to do "more than your best" is a recipe for exhaustion and resentment.) Will be thinking of you, Sophie.

kccc

That "icky feeling" is also part of the learning process. :) And it's a good sign - it says that you're listening to your body more. For most people, the S-days look a lot like what every day used to! So, even if you're just cutting them down to 2 a week, that's an improvement. It's best NOT to worr...

kccc

It's so hard to get a break when the kiddos are really young!

Thalia's right (as usual). You can do No-S (or any of the other systems) as a stand-alone.

Hope that No-S works for you, and that you find ways to address your back pain. That's no fun at all!!

(And welcome.)

kccc

Congratulations on your progress! Even when it feels like you're just taking babysteps toward your goal, it's important to remember that babysteps WILL take you where you want to go. Your post really shows their power over time. :) And the growth in "sustainable habit" is wonderful. Hope to see many...

kccc

Deb, congrats on your success! If you were originally 259, you have 1-2 more pounds to make a 10% weight loss - which is a MAJOR milestone! That's considered significant in terms of health. Also WW uses 10% increments too, so that your "next goal" is always 10% of the starting weight... when you rea...

kccc

Yay, Sue2! I love this: I will screw up but I will throw it off and move on. I think that describes the "human condition" quite accurately. We all screw up... "balance" is a constant shifting, not a stable point... and we just correct and re-group and keep going... If there is a "mind-body center" n...

kccc

To my surprise, I was out of canned clams. They went on the grocery list, and we had tortellini with pesto, salad, and a fruit cup (banana and blueberries) instead. All good. I'm glad I keep a well-stocked pantry/freezer. Br - 1/2 bagel with PB and banana, 2 CaL L (planned) - one plate at my favorit...

kccc

Kathleen, I wish you every success.

I have tried to give you the best support and counsel that I can, but in the end, all the decisions are up to you - it's your life (and I don't pretend to be all-knowing, lol!).

May your chosen path lead you where you want to go.

KCCC

kccc

I like the "ideal/acceptable" description as well - very much.

And yes, this was definitely testimonial-worthy!

kccc

Dinner as planned last night, except the last of the watermelon instead of salad. Plus a glass of wine. Br - Greek yogurt and fresh blueberries, 2 CaL L (planned) - salad with rotisserie chicken on top; 3" corn on cob; small serving leftover green beans, banana. D (planned) - pasta with clam sauce, ...

kccc

I have been thinking about my inclination to put my "wants" second to what hubby/kids want to do..or I think they want to do and my thinking I have to do all the "work" involved with entertaining or the world might come to an end. :roll: I am concluding that I have been making mountains from mole h...

kccc

Kathleen, I agree with Grammy. If I can make ONE suggestion, it would be to set your goals in terms of behavior, not results. It is SO depressing (even to me!) to read "23 pounds behind goal." Who could ever catch up to that? It's painful just to read. A better goal would be to have 21 days (or time...

kccc

So sorry about the inner ear thing... but you were smart to recognize that food wouldn't fix it, or really make you feel better. Is there something else that you can do for comfort when the "poor me's" strike? If your inner child is regularly throwing tantrums and wanting things, then she's probably...

kccc

@snapdragon - I do post "regular" meals, but tend to stop posting when I'm eating too many "S's"! :oops: Partly because I'm embarrassed, partly because it just gets to be too much work to track it - which is why "accouting" diets don't work for me! @Grammy - you are a mind-reader! I had already made...

kccc

You're both an inspiration!

Perseverence does pay off - and good for you for hanging in!

kccc

Definitely a milestone!

Hope the PT goes well, and has you back in shape fast!

kccc

Big achievement of the day - I contained the S event. I had planned it, I enjoyed it, but didn't feel the need to eat constantly all day. I was hungry waiting for my friend to arrive, but knew that I would enjoy my food more if I waited to eat. And guess what? I coped with the hunger It would be go...

kccc

Big achievement of the day - I contained the S event. I had planned it, I enjoyed it, but didn't feel the need to eat constantly all day. I was hungry waiting for my friend to arrive, but knew that I would enjoy my food more if I waited to eat. And guess what? I coped with the hunger It would be go...

kccc

Beryy, I am impressed! Good for you!

kccc

Berry, your boss has a great routine! On a normal day, I drive to work early, work out at the gym, and dress there... and, like her, HATE when an early meeting disrupts that routine! (I don't get the end-of-the day-exercise she does, though...) Hubby and I are talking about a bike for me at some poi...

kccc

Actually, I re-connected to my enjoyment of baking after finding No-S. Which is a nice bonus. Partly because I've gotten much pickier about my treats, and homemade is generally better than store-bought. Partly because I don't worry so much about over-eating. I mostly don't. It does happen, but not l...

kccc

Thanks, Grammy, We're home now, and trying to get re-settled. Have done some grocery-shopping, but need to do more. Last day was lovely... Kids went to the waterpark with hubby, and I rented a bike again and went ALL over the island! It was really wonderful. I may have to get a bike for myself. When...

kccc

It's just my new 2011 thread... here...

http://everydaysystems.com/bb/viewtopic ... &start=200

I think you are following it already.

Cheers,

KCCC

kccc

DaveMc wrote:

I'm comfortable coming down firmly on the side of the low-sand diet, however.

Dave, you crack me up!

kccc

I responded to you on your thread, but am not on a device that allows me to cut and paste to here easily. (If you can, I think it would be pertinent to the discussion.) Let me also point out that though the default number of meals for most people is 3, that's not written anywhere. If your metabolism...

kccc

We took it easy yesterday, and little girl seems better. Some ups and downs in terms of temper...ready to abandon my son to be raised by wolves, maybe they'd have better luck than we have. (KIDDING! He has been a trial, though, in all the ways that most push my buttons. I suppose this is part of him...

kccc

One day at a time!:)

kccc

Boy, I wish I lived close to you! I'd come to your plant sale, and learn all I could from you!

kccc

1. Would a glass of milk have addressed the shakes? 2. Is this just part of the "learning curve"? Did you need more (or different) lunch? 3. Is this part of a medical issue? Doctor's advice takes precedence over diet advice. 4. Were you genuinely sick? Sick is an S as well. I have chosen to eat inst...

kccc

I remember someone once telling me that "When you're a mom, you don't get vacations. You just get life in other places." There's some truth to that, especially when you're in a house. There are still meals to get, laundry to be done, kid-herding at bedtime, etc. However, I mostly still feel on vacat...

kccc

idon'tknow wrote:This will be an S event, which is contained, valued and enjoyed.

What a great quote - and a lovely way to approach S-events!

kccc

Hope your hubby is feeling better. I'm cheering you on your 21-day streak!

kccc

Your meals sound great - I love oriental food, but my repertoire is limited. Reading your descriptions is inspiring me to branch out.

kccc

Hope you're doing well, and your arm is mending. I had an arm in a cast years and years ago, and remember noticing just how much I "talk with my hands...even on the phone! It's amazing how the little things you take for granted wear at you when you can't do them. So, just sending good wishes now as ...

kccc

Hope you're finally feeling better!

kccc

Ohh yes, think I might need an extra suitcase just for the patience :D Although it will be our 3rd holiday with both the boys, plus one before the younger came along, plus they all stayed with us twice now so at least we know what we're letting ourselves in for. If you're going in with your eyes op...

kccc

I think the critical question is not "what do you call it this time."

It's "What will you do if this happens again"

Figuring out optimal strategies for YOUR life is what gives No-S its power.

kccc

Skykitty, if you are not a parent, pack an extra large dose of patience. My son was a total pain in the...neck yesterday, and it took all I had in me not to lose my own enjoyment in the day. (He is a bit of a Drama King; the best way to deal is just to ignore him and not get sucked into the drama yo...

kccc

How exciting!!

It's nice that you had a lovely trip just before this big news...and it is BIG news! Keep us posted as events unfold...

kccc

Definitely an S day - but a lovely one! Started with our "donuts at sunrise".:) B - 4 Mini donuts and 2 Cal. One cafe au lait very early, one at our sunrise breakfast. :) L - chicken, corn on the cob, watermelon S - Mini cheesecake for dessert S - snack of 2 pb crackers and a banana D - sausage, sal...

kccc

Happy first day of vacation! Yesterday as (belatedly) planned. Plus a packing frenzy, to get all our stuff in order. Today we drove to the beach house we rented. About five and half hours, not including stops. Four of us CRAMMED in the car, with a cooler between the kids (little guy and friend...a l...

kccc

Today.... Gym is closed today. :( I did a "mimimal" yoga routine before leaving for work. It counts. I don't feel it is enough, but IT COUNTS. Br - Greek yogurt. I had a pear too, but it was mealy and I decided I'd rather be hungry than eat it. L - Out. Leaving work early to go to a Dr's apt, will e...

kccc

The problem is that at the moment I have no other means of nurturing. I remember when I was working on my dissertation (and working full time) and felt I didn't have time to breathe. A friend left me some scented body wash and a nice note, and it cheered me enormously. (After all, I HAD to take a s...

kccc

Blithe, Sending what emotional support I can from a distance. What can others do to help? Food is a powerful self medicator. Once you've been on No S a while, food is mostly a happy thing; it's something you enjoy often shared in the company of people you care about. This is really a profound reflec...

kccc

I started on 5/19/11. What I am wondering is if anyone started by simply not eating snacks, seconds or sweets but then again eating foods that are not restricted as in necessarily low fat, whole grain and all the rest. I am eating what I like which sometimes is whole grain, fruits, vegetables but I...

kccc

It is always nice to "see" you here!

Glad to hear that life is going well for you.

I like hearing about your puppy. We are contemplating adding a dog to our household. None in particular, but our son is asking... and we're thinking about it.

Stay in touch!

kccc

It's also a good thing to tell kids who want junk food right before dinner.

kccc

I think she's a bit over-restrictive on desserts (one per week?), in part because she's rather in the "sugar is poison" camp. I agree that sugar is an issue, and I look for products that don't add it. (There is NO REASON to put sugar in PB, for example! Yet, there it is!) But in terms of limiting de...

kccc

Dinner was as planned - salmon, corn, fruit. I did have some crackers as I was getting dinner ready, because I'd been out in the heat all afternoon, sweating profusely, and was feeling a little shaky/nauseated. I ate a carefully-counted serving of whole wheat crackers, and left room for them on my p...

kccc

IDK, I see where your very sweet comment on my thread came from now! (That is, around the "wrecking the car" analogy.) Hang in there. We all get a few dents (and even go through a few cars!!) while we're learning to stay on the path we've chosen. :) I'll add my other mantra: Be gentle with yourself....

kccc

How to eat dessert and still stay skinny

I love this blog, and have recommended it before.

Most of her recommendations happen naturally with No-S over time, but if you want a jump-start...

kccc

Blithe Morning wrote: Nothing is truly a failure if you learn from it.

What a GREAT quote! Belongs on the "sticky" page, IMHO. (And applies to more than No-S.)

kccc

Hi KCCC - just wanted to say thank you for the 'don't wreck the car' catchphrase. Part of my job involves working with students who find it difficult to control their behaviour and we are having a lot of success with this analogy. One boy in particular turns up at my office at the end of the day sa...

kccc

Dinner was different than planned - hubby wanted to go back to work, so wasn't eating with us. So I just fixed tomato soup and grilled cheese sandwiches, plus fruit. It's one of the little guy's faves, but we don't have it often because hubby dislikes tomato soup. I also had another CaL in the after...

kccc

Congrats to you for losing weight... AND for maintaining your temper with your hubby for effortlessly losing more! (Probably one of the most irritating things otherwise nice men do!)

kccc

Oh, Berry, Grammy, and Blithe, how you are making me smile! Yes, it was a fail... and I don't regret it one little bit. :) Normally, I try to avoid the "food is love" connection - in most cases, you CAN take the love and still refuse the food. But every now and then... it matters. I do think it's im...

kccc

This sort of goes along with the "cult person" thread... I had bought my original copy of No-S just as a "thank-you" to Reinhard. (At the time, I thought I "knew it all" from the website.) However, when I got it, I found it very useful to have all the info in book form. Eventually I gave my copy awa...

kccc

Grammy, it is SO nice to have you here again! I like your "rest and regroup" line. (I'm getting ready to go on vacation, and driving myself crazy about it, lol!)

kccc

Dinner was a bit different - I didn't realize I was out of canned salmon. Oh well. I subbed chicken quesadillas, and it was fine. However, had a "fail." Son offered me two of his last "peeps" - which I love especially when they're very stale and chewy. (Okay, laugh. I know this is counter to all my ...

kccc

I'm going to be a bit grave here and point out some things. No S is not offered as a program for reversing health problems, and I'm pretty sure Reinhard would be the first to say it. It sounds to me like your doctor may be quite worried about you. Do you think she was overestimating the problem? I'...

kccc

Glad you had something to celebrate!

kccc

Well, unobtrusive ones USED to exist. Don't know if they do anymore!

kccc

Well, I got it, and I am not happy with it. The functionality is fine. But this thing is BIG - like a large hard-boiled egg cut in half. Add the clip to that shape, and it's like trying to wear a bobble-head on your waist. And the clip is set a bit low, so it comes off easily. (There is a "leash" cl...

kccc

So, I've been sick forever. I'm so exhausted and demoralized. And we decide to have a bit of ice cream with the tiny slice of cake that we saved from last week. We decide to "temper" the ice cream, but this goes horribly wrong, and I end up having a total melt down because the so-called ice cream i...

kccc

Welcome back, Tiffani! You sound so unhappy. My recommendation to you is one you've heard before: Be gentle with yourself. In terms of the No-S diet, this means following to the letter, but NOT beyond. Don't make eat tiny meals of "diet food" - eat a reasonable plate of food! Don't eat food you disl...

kccc

Saturday was nice - we had our last soccer game, then a pizza party at a pizza buffet place to follow. I ate about what I usually do, and was fine. Later, we had root beer floats - two small scoops of vanilla and about 4 ounces of root beer, but it feels so BIG and decadent made into a float! For di...

kccc

Welcome back!

kccc

Congrats on your pregnancy! I had my son before I knew about No-S, but I couldn't have done it while expecting either - whenever I didn't have food in my stomach, the nausea got me. Fortunately, it didn't take MUCH to keep me steady. While I generally don't think of pregnancy as being "sick", in thi...

kccc

Can't you log into the site on your Android? All it takes is a browser app.

(I do that on my iPhone.)

Edited to add: Five weeks! Wow! Sounds like you have something truly wonderful planned. Enjoy, and tell us when you can!

kccc

CBT can be really effective. And the good thing it, when you change the way you think, the behavior (generally, eventually) follows. A lot of people here use it (even if they don't know they are). All those "great quotes" that people adopt almost as mantras are ways to change their thinking. "Mark i...

kccc

Friday turned out to be an "easy" day, totally contrary to expectations. I think having such a lovely lunch really helped, even though it was perfectly No-S compliant. Dinner ended up being a bit different... I haven't cooked short ribs before, and had NO idea that they took so long! So I substitute...

kccc

My problem is I seem to just switch my brain off on S days and end up putting everything in my mouth without even thinking about if I want it or even like it, I just eat it because I can. Which is bad. Today I planned my treats for the first time and am hoping it will help. I expect it will. That w...

kccc

Thursday was a FAIL. Not a huge one, I don't think, but still... From work, I was leaving for a new event that I had decided to try - a business where you went in to paint. It was clearly set up to be very social (they served wine/beer) and geared toward non-artists. I used to paint. It takes more t...

kccc

Friday nights are still hard for me too. It IS a celebratory kind of night, isn't it? It helps if I plan a really nice meal. And sometimes I fail. When I do, I try to keep it contained - a "fail-event" rather than a crazy-fail-binge. I sometimes allow an "exception-event" when we go out to eat, and ...

kccc

Yesterday's dinner was pork chops (that what was in the pkg, not sirloin) with caramelized onions, the sweet potatoes, broccoli, and salad. Yum! Today 15-min minimum of exercise. (Time constraints) Br - PB toast (2), 2 CaL L - cheese and crackers, leftover broccoli and sweet potatoes, dried apricots...

kccc

john wrote: I am assuming the cup of water for moisture is poured over the celery and not next to it in another small container.

That would NOT be my assumption... but I don't eat celery on purpose, so do what you will.

kccc

What a great post!

finallyfull wrote:
If I never lose an ounce this is just plain old sanity.

My favorite line.

So many of us use food as a mis-guided form of self-nurture... and turn to better strategies when we stop masking our real needs with food!

kccc

My "vacation mod" is "one S-event per day, if I want it." I don't usually want that many S-days in a row, but sticking to straight vanilla on vacation seems a little too inflexible. Food is a part of vacation, especially when traveling. I may steal this vacation mod when we go to Scotland this summ...

kccc

Sounds like "the experiment" is going well.

And I'm not surprised about "more exercise" - I've long thought that "a body in motion tends to stay in motion / a body at rest tends to stay at rest" is not just physics, but an important statement about people!

Congrats on the weight loss!

kccc

Hi Grammy G! The oatmeal-and-banana sounds good. I normally COOK mine in milk rather than water, so will have to adjust! (The PB&B is working okay for now.) Dinner last night was mostly as planned. I didn't have time to get salad, and I forgot I had watermelon that needed using. So, had the pasta wi...

kccc

S events sound tempting to me, but I actually think it's quite good for me to try not to eat sugary sweet things for a few days straight. It seems the less of them I eat the less I crave. I agree with this. My "vacation mod" is "one S-event per day, if I want it." I don't usually want that many S-d...

kccc

We live in Wisconsin and had a frost last night so I am officially jealous of your strawberries and watermelon. We are still eating last year's rubbery apples and paying huge amounts for fruit from warmer climates. Enjoy those berries. Here, we'll be done with strawberries by June - it's easy to mi...

kccc

I just ordered this one from Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0000U1OCI

Looking forward to trying it out!

Thanks for the recommendations!

kccc

Lovely weekend. I returned in the pedometer, and have ordered another I hope will be more accurate. Went out to eat at a new restaurant on Friday. VERY good - and easy to eat a No-S-compliant meal. Which I did, except I allowed an S-event of a mini-cupcake. (Really mini, and really WORTH IT.) Overal...

kccc

It is so fun when old threads are revived! This one started in 2008, and has been revived a couple of times, so I can see some personal evolution over time. An older post from page 1 of this thread that documents a personal turning point.... Sophiasapienta, I like your questions! One of my recent "a...

kccc

My old one cheated me, but the one I bought to replace it was TOO generous! (Wildly inaccurate - I took it back. 35,000 steps in a day is NOT my reality at this point, lol!)

Will search on the brand you recommended.

kccc

...And I can tell you, that feels powerful because I don't have to exert will power to have it happen. I am being healed! from the inside. And it does to some degree I think come from having seen how hard I was on myself in some other areas of life and deciding I should be kinder to myself about th...

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